Had a look at that discussion thread and it is quite different from what I was given as a recipe.
Like I said, I'll share the whole process later.
One big thing with the guy's recipe he's given on that link- the addition of the steel wool means two separate things are going on. One is the acid oxidation of the wood (darkening it) by the HNO3, the other is the creation of a ferro (iron) - tannate complex with the tannins in the wood and the steel wool. It will be more successful with tannin-rich woods such as oak, but much less so with boxwood.
Steel wool can be used as a mordant for dyeing, but that doesn't seem to be what's going on here.
just a few random thoughts...